Originally Posted by
marie1960 
I would not view it as turning my back on him, it's all about perspective, Rosie, I would see it as an opportunity for an adult man to take control of his own life. I would allow him the dignity to make some life choices for himself. Even in the animal kingdom the mother will cease to nurse her young, they have to learn to provide for themselves.
This is so very well said! When I struggle with my codie control issues, I'm going to try to remember this post, thank you!