Lara,
Your SR friends understand.We've been there.
I went no contact....just did it.
(and spent a year on SR recovering)
This was not a spouse,a lover,or even (really) a friend.
Just a long time aquaintance who asked for help as her life
careened into hell.
It was HARD,DAMNED HARD.Anyone who would imply it
is easy doesn't know what the hell they are talking about.
What if she was my wife,my lover,or my child? Would
I have been strong enough to just go NO CONTACT?
I honestly do not know.
And anyone who tells you with certainty that THEY
would be.....
.........is full of crap.
I'll tell you who I am in awe of.The people of SR that are
going through this with a PRIMARY relationship.....and coming here
with their hard-gained wisdom,empathy....and yes,even humor.
What have I lost? My smug attitudes towards addicts,their
families----and my 'pat' answers to their plight.....and I pray that
those subjected to my sneers,my disdain,and my arrogance before
I was exposed to this evil........will forgive me my ignorance.
Maybe God just thought it was time to beat a little painful
humility into me!