Right now, I am so devastated over my breakup, that even others people's slight need of me/my attention/my assistance spins me right out of control. I can't make decisions about food, housing, etc. and I am not an alcoholic. If I was dependent on an actual drug; I suppose it would be that much harder. Try not to look at the big picture yet. Take one day a time. Not living in the same house doesn't necessarily mean you are headed for divorce. For right now it means that you are living apart. I am so sorry that this is so painful for you, but we are here and we are listening.