Originally Posted by
Crazed 
So I want her to tell me that our relationship is over, which she will not.
Hi crazed, I'm sorry to read about the things that brought you here but glad you've found us.
I pulled this quote out from your post because I find it confusing - Why do you need HER to tell YOU that it's over? Do you WANT to be in a relationship with her? I think that's the first thing to determine before trying to figure out how best to handle your situation, just my $.02, but food for thought.