Thank you for sharing more about yourself and your situation. It helps us understand and relate to you.
It's good to hear that you are all seeking counseling. I hope that it has been helpful for all of you. It sounds as though you have a good support system through that counseling and his parents. I would highly recommend Nar-Anon meetings (or Al-Anon if Nar-Anon isn't available). Those rooms are full of people who understand the fear and anxiety associated with loving someone who is addicted. It may also give you a better understanding of the disease and how we often react to it......our involvement so to speak.
There is a lot of very helpful information here on SR as well and a great deal of support. Sometimes it's helpful to get other perspectives on our viewpoints. We can all sometimes get some skewed thinking and it's helpful to hear the experience, strength and hope of others.
Again.....welcome to SR. I hope you find this a comfortable place to share your thoughts and feelings.
gentle hugs
ke