Chloe, have you read Codependent No More a wonderful book by Melody Beattie?
I think it is good that you have your own therapist.
I try to control everything in hopes that he won't use. I am slowly learning and accepting that I have nothing to do with it. If he is going to use then he will.
Your so right about that You didn't cause it You can't control it You can't cure it
I am struggling with seeing this as a disease.
Personally I have no doubt that it is a disease but with that said we do not have to tolerate the behaviors or their using they can get help if they really wanna stop. I am not saying it is easy but neither is over coming codependency.