Thankyou all such wise words of wisdom and I realize how messed up I am as I scream in my thoughts I am not co dependant. I read A bit of MB and couldn't relate.
My RA isince he's been sleeping downstairs for 2 months and I've asked him to leave for 6 months to give me space has
Seeked counselling
Attended AA
Said he was sorry numerous times
My concerns
When asking him for a suitable consequence for our daughter he still gives warnings no action
He still doesn't ask her to contribute to any help around the house
He still pretends and acts like everything is great
He is taking benzos now
He hid that from me in the past
I'm afraid he will relapse with these
As far as my daughter
She has been none violent for 2 months
At first supported me in leaving now doesn't
Is seeing a psychiatrist
Went to dr
Is working more almost full time
Is highly dependant but can't afford to move out on her job pays little and rents are high here
She won't move in with anyone
She loves me to death in between the abuse
My feelings are rah past has messed her up she needs support...I need to be there for her but she knows this is the last time.
My rah last time was when he did nothing to support me with her abusive tyrant 2 months ago thus he is asked to leave and sleeping downstairs
So hope works has he repented? Is being sorry enough? He has always been sorry this confuses me.