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Originally Posted by Anaya View Post
Vale - always enjoy your posts and your sense of humor.

helpme33 - you make some good points. Also, as far as what you say in the quoted section below, turning over to my HP has helped me immensely. As far as buying into and defining my son as what some may consider a "loser" and writing him off as a menace to society, I usually try to not engage in that thinking and instead pray for him, as many others I know have done over the years. He has lots of help available if he chooses to go that path.
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An inoperative line of diseased thinking inevitably raises it's head in any
open forum,generally in two distinct flavors or sub-genres...to whit:

1) Face it,your kid/spouse/BF/GF is a loser----hence by indirect
inference,YOU are a loser for having sired,married,become voluntarily
connected with said 'loser'.("Apple doesn't fall far...")

2) We need to 'cull the herd' or weed....(get rid of the 'losers' in a violent
and permanent way).Weak minded adherents to this philosophy find
special fondness for goose-stepping,as well as murdering-in-masse
those 'deemed' inferior.Pushed to the extreme,option 2 requires us to
fill the command seat of B-17's with children (21 yr olds) from Kansas,
as well as expend tens of millions of lives to snuff out this evil.

The only 'revenge' I ever wanted on the addict I crossed paths with was
to have those who attacked her so viciously ---- experience the wondrous
ease of "just saying no" to a deeply entrenched hard opiate addiction.I would
exempt only her children.To all the rest I would prescribe a long and wondrous
"honeymoon" of hard addicting opiates----followed by 'cold turkey'.

Then tell me how easy it is to get off it.Call them 'losers' as they rip the
veneer off the walls and try to sell it to strangers at the corner 7-11.

People talk a tough (Darwinian)game,especially when they are young.
Life has a way of separating the wheat from the chaff---and this perennial
rebirth of cruelty,ignorance,and arrogant stupidity.....is most disappointing.

All thinking people have a duty to fight it(or hold their heads in shame as
they shirk their duty).Trust me,99% of these "phony tough" would soil
themselves on first contact.....drop their weapon....and RUN.Empathy is a
high-order trait.One earned over thousands of years and at a cost of
hundreds of millions of lives.It is (in a word) our humanity.

We are a social species.Your son is not a "loser".Do not 'buy into' it.
He made a poor decision of the 'latch' category (easy to get in,hard to get out).

Society (or the salvation army)will light a path out of this nightmare
when he is ready.But woe be unto those who would 'deem' him irredeemable.Far be
it from me to read God's mind......but I would rather think that sort of thing
would be just the ticket to a world of vengeful hurt,bad karma,and the
wrath of a pissed off deity whose turf is best not infringed upon.
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