Originally Posted by
ananda 
I've been drinking for a week now. I understand that that makes all my thought processes questionable.
Not
all your thought processes.
I tried the conventional program and tried to make myself believe things I didn't really believe, because people told me to, and that didn't work for me.
I'm not sure what the answer is for you, but yes people do stay sober without 12 step. I find SMART recovery helpful, but that is less a "program" and more a cognitive-behavioral-therapeutic approach, or to be precise rational-emotive-behavioral-therapy. They do not tell you that you have to go to their meetings, to follow any suggestions, or to believe or not believe in God or anything else.
It is just a set of techniques and groups in which to share and discuss these techniques and experiences. But it is more about learning to manage your own life in general, not to become dependent upon SMART.