my parents live far away from us...my son has no idea about them. he doesn't know about the others, either. i just meant that so many other people smoke pot, that it's hard to tell my son not to. of course, they have not experienced the consequences that he has, and they're all much older and have earned the right to make their choices. they also are responsible, have jobs, etc. they haven't made their pot smoking into a problem for everyone else in their household.