lizatola

I've thought that before, too. He made a comment while with the marriage therapist the other day that he felt used for his money and that all he was good for was providing a paycheck. Yet, a minutes later he insinuated that I should give him s*x because he pays for our bills and the house, etc. So, in my mind that makes me nothing more than a prostitute. Yet, he's also said that if I get a job outside the house, then our marriage will be over for sure. So, I always feel trapped by his words. I had thought early on that I was in a reciprocal marriage, that we made decisions together for the betterment of our family. The decision to homeschool was a mutual agreement, and he was the one who wanted me to come home from work and who was proud of himself for having a wife who was a SAHM(stay at home mom). Anyway, the way I see it is that I'm da*ned if I do, and I'm da*ned if I don't. Seems to be a common thread for us.

I never really recognized the possession vs partner issue, but I guess I can see it now. Maybe it wasn't like that in the beginning years but it's evolved into this as he slips deeper into denial and into his illness.