I'm sorry for all your trouble Jane.
One thing I do know is - I deal with crises and problems a lot better sober.
I know it's a lot on your plate, especially so soon, but you can do this.
Prioritise your problems - deal with the stuff you can do something about and the rest can take care of it itself.
Focus on the things most important to you. It may be hard right now but you will get through this.
and never forget - you're not alone here
D