I made sure he had my phone number to call collect when he is serious about turning his life around. I can't do this any more. I may never see or hear from my son again, and he make committ suicide. I was told in a meeting that there is no way they would cut off contact with their child (by several people).
Well, I don't buy that.
The hardest stories to listen to in an Al Anon meeting are stories like yours, and I have met several women who, in the interests of self preservation, have cut ties with their children. Some have to take RO's out. Others allow their children to stay in jail.
ALL of them have struggled with that decision.
Yes, there is a price to be paid for going no contact. But detaching with love is all you can do.