Thank you all for your understanding and support of my very hard decision. After thinking about the responses in the meeting I do think some are afraid that they may lose contact with their loved one forever, whether it is their choice or not.
I have relatives that have grown men sleeping on their sofas - not working or leading a productive life - but in their minds, at least they know where they are.
We each have to follow our own path and I do not judge them - I just can't live like that! In my situation, staying in contact with my AS is crippling all of us.