Originally Posted by
helpme33 
I was told in a meeting that there is no way they would cut off contact with their child (by several people).
Helpme, I used to say this for many years until I woke up one day and knew I could continue no further. If I wanted to survive, I would have to get my son to leave the house. After that, I tried on various occasions to have limited contact and whilst it was easier, I eventually realized that for my own sanity I have to cut contact with my son, who is not behaving like my son anymore and hasn't for years.
I mention this because I think people who say they will never go no contact with their children, either:
- has not been pushed far enough for long enough
- will probably end up with children in their forties and fifties who are very abusive towards them if they don't decide to seek recovery.
I miss my son dearly and think about him every single day, but I cannot continue the addict dance with him anymore.
Your boundaries have to work for you, not someone else.