Hi Liz, I have read many of your posts over the months. Personally, I don't think it is anyone's business to judge you or why you are staying in your marriage. Most of us have stayed in "unhealthy" marriages for one reason or another; income, fear, obligation, guilt, etc..
I think most of us just want to get healthy and hope other people get healthy too and make healthy choices.
I think the hard part is when kids are involved. Many posters here have been hurt by an addict parent and know the long term effects. Many of us have allowed our own kids to be hurt by addiction and wish we knew better and/or maybe could turn back the clock.
That said, the best thing I have learned in Alanon was "it's none of my business what you think of me." It was a very liberating thing for me. Just wanted to share....
