Djayr - I don't have words of wisdom but I did know/watch someone go through this last year.
Married 30 years - a divorce, he a womanizing alcoholic. Last time I saw the wife before the accident she was excited because she expected to be divorced within a month after a very nasty process.
Then last year about this time he (drunk) hit a tree and snapped his neck. He is quadrapeligic now.
She was with him in the hospital everyday he was in for 6 months between the hospital and rehab. He was released, and then she finalized the divorce.
Take a deep breath. You don't have to decide anything right now. Will pray for you and your wife tonight.