It's not too late to turn things around! My husband was arrested twice for drinking & his company never found out. They only find out those things if they do a background check. My husband was also on probation for 1 yr & he never told his company so hopefully you won't have any problem w/your job (unless you start drinking again). I hope you can work it out w/your wife. Maybe you can figure out ways to remind her of why she fell in love with you? Divorce is a HUGE thing, so maybe you can at least try therapy before it gets to that point? Best of luck!