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Old 12-12-2012, 01:58 PM
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SparkleKitty
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Hi, Meg. Welcome to SR. So glad you found us, but so sorry for the reason why.

The number one thing to know about alcoholism are the 3 C's:

You didn't Cause it
You can't Control it
You won't Cure it

I think you probably already know the first C, because he was a drinker when you got together, but it sounds like you're struggling with the second one. You can want him to change until the cows come home, but until he wants that for himself, he never will.

Please hang around and read all you can stand, especially the Stickies at the top of the F&F forum; they contain incredible information about alcoholism and experiences of those who love alcoholics.

As for what you should do right now, my only suggestion is educate yourself about alcoholism so you can understand what it is that both you and he are up against.

Sending strength and courage your way.
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