Thanks Robby. No, he isn't expressing interest in recovery methods whatsoever unfortunately!
Looking back I can see he always had a lot of anger issues. He did briefly get some therapy many years ago. But then he sort of got lost in the bottle. We both did. Without it his anger, which I believe stems from a lack of confidence, has resurfaced.
I think he might be willing to look at anger as a separate issue from drinking. He is very touchy if we talk about alcoholism. Very defensive.
He is struggling and I'm worried about him. I don't want him to pick up again. That would be disastrous but I hate to watch him living like this.