Co-d X boyfriend just showed up
So now that i decided to put myself first, I can see that i have to end this co-d back and forth relationship. He is an addict - hard drugs off and on. He did rehab but now I realize the pattern is every 2-3 months relapse and does the 'feel bad for me' thing. He slept in a park, got his car towed, walked for hours, hurt his back and complaining. I am so over it and have a few ties that I have to clear up asap to do the final 'break off'. He works at the house I manage doing carpentry so there is a money thing and work thing tied in. I realized today that i like to hide things - like my alcohol and weed issues and my bad relationship and don't want people to know what I am struggling with. He has gotten to the point where it is so obvious he is a mess that I can't hide from it. And I know this is only the co-d part. I can't believe I have let this train wreck go on for so many years....want to change and have him out of my life for good!