Old 12-04-2012, 02:15 PM
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WishingWell
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I think it's all a dance with ourselves.

Yes, there is co-dependent behavior and on the other hand, there are actual instincts. I work to not jump to blame myself or label myself when I have a reaction. Because I'm still working on my growth - I pause. I tend to put it on paper and take a more objective look.

In marriage therapy the other week I attributed some reaction I had to possibly co-dependency and our brilliant therapist added his thought - it wasn't co-dependency at work but actually, a very valid reaction.

Only you know - take a second to take it out of your head and onto the page and see if it holds up! I think Leise had some good ideas - also as HW and Jody posted, I know that for me therapy has been an incredible key to balance.
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