Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
Insanity = doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Maybe it's time to reevaluate Step 2?
JMHO - said in gentleness, I realized whenever I obsess on my husband's behaviour, it is actually reflecting some imbalance in my own. By obsessing on him i am deflecting and projecting my fears onto him .
My views on respect - both my parents were alcoholic, but they were human - and therefore were entitled to their dignity- also whenever anyone denigrated them as their child I felt the part of them within me was attacked too. Therefore I have always encouraged my children to respect their dad , but to be aware of the alcoholic behaviour.
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