Sorry about this JejaVue2. Didnt mean to offend you.
I broke up with the love of my life this summer because I wanted to change my life and be sober. Hardest thing I evern had to do, for me. We saw each other, she was drinking rye, smoking cigarettes and weed. I was drinking orange juice. It's when I realized I had to leave her to do this for me, not for her, not to influence her to stop, to help her etc.
For once in my life this was about me me me. I relapsed hard after I broke up with her. Tought I would die. But I got back up and here I am now, working on me me me.
Sobriety is as personal experience, for me it is. ;-)
good luck I see some of the guys are already helping you, they are the best! ;-)