Originally Posted by
DejaVu2 
Okay Mr. Robot... Trying to grasp this. Monster is allowed to think/feel/say whatever it wants whenever it wants to. The point is not to make him be quiet but to ignore it? Like a child throwing a tantrum because he wants ice cream? Just become aware that it's a monster wanting a fix and that you're perfectly okay with going without?
Does that make the monster simmer down or does the monster keep attacking the next second?
Yeah, the Monster is allowed to be free to be whatever it is, for all time. All AV is allowed as well. No exceptions or conditions are required, or desired. There is no "war" to win.
The point is not to ignore the Monster. Ignoring the Monster will only bring misery, because the addictive desires are too strong to be long ignored with any kind of success. The Monster speaks though its AV. Recognising which particular AV thoughts, if followed thru on, would satisfy the Monsters desires is the desired technique to make use of to achieve separation of thoughts of AV and everyday thinking. Once recognised, and not acted on, the Monster will attempt new AV, and so on. To the ex-addict, this will seem as normal thinking with addictive ambivalence in action pullin him/her in all directions.
Eventually enough AV is recognised to become indifferent to the Monsters desires and barks (AV). No different then when you talk with a friend in a noisy place, and you filter out the background noise to follow the conversation. You're aware of the noise, but indifferent to it. Same thing is what you want to eventually achieve with the Monster.
So, its not about ignoring. Its all about recognising and then becoming, eventually, indifferent to this backgoround AV noise.
The Monster is only so smart, and eventually, can only repeat itself on and on and on. It becomes quite boring to listen to it, actually. I'd rather watch paint dry, lol.
Keep asking questions, DejaVu. Its how we find answers, yeah?
Hope this helped some.
