Old 11-25-2012, 07:59 AM
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LaTeeDa
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I can look back and remember thinking over and over again--maybe this is it. Maybe he's finally getting it. It seems silly now, with the benefit of hindsight. It was a very predictable pattern. He would do/say something that pushed me to the edge. Then he would realize that if he wasn't careful, he would lose his enabler. So, he would get "back in line." It would last for a few days/weeks until he started feeling comfortable and cocky again, then he would push a bit too far and I was back on the edge. Lather, rinse, repeat. I danced that dance for nearly 20 years.

I couldn't see the pattern when I was dancing. I had to get some distance and look back on it objectively. When I did, it was clear as day. Textbook "cycle of abuse."

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