Dear TG-
Thanks for this post. It helped to remind me that though I am no longer with the man that got me to this board, Al-Anon etc; I am still on the recovery journey.
Sometimes, because of the grounding/healing I have done due to the alcoholism in my life I realize that I am more open to seeing reality around me. I spent the holiday with extended family where three of the four members have used/abused alcohol in the past and may/may not be active. One family member in particular has a number of other concerns as well.
I spent last Xmas with this family also and though I was aware that stuff was going on, I struggled to not take it on as my own.
This year I was able to understand that it had nothing to do with me, and I had an enjoyable (and not stressful) holiday.
It also helped me to realize I am not traveling to them for Xmas this year.
Sometimes it is hard for me to balance that with the growth I am experiencing there does come serenity but there also comes a different level of responsibility....to myself.
Thanks for demonstrating (and sharing that). It helps to see it in action.