I have had some bad news about 2 of my family members lately too so I understand your dilemma. I just keep telling myself that these people that I love want me sober....and dont want their sickness to worsen my issues. I try and tell myself it would be selfish for me to drink...that thats what the beast wants and it is using this situation to try and attack.
Sorry to hear of your news
. Hang in there buddy!