I feel like I am in a VERY similar situation to yours. My husband has been sober for 6 months. All though I am very glad that he quit drinking, his temper is the same as it always was, maybe even worse since he can't go to alcohol for comfort. He blows up all the time over pointless **** and we go 2-3 days without talking and then we eventually start talking because he either apologizes or I get over it. But it is a continuous cycle, it seems like. I am so emotionally drained from it, that I too feel like I have lost all feelings for him. It doesn't even feel like I mean it when I say "I love you".
I know that he has a disease, however, I feel that it is unfair to me to have to bend over backwards to accomadate him and his temper. Who is going to help me when I break down from dealing with all the stress, pain and anger!?