funny, i was thinking about the co dependency thing...and my old post bumped up...
its not like co dependency was a sticky note on the fridge...
for me, it was a learned behaviour from my parents...yes or no?...i got growing up that something was off...and even with all the alcoholism in my life...
or something tragic happened in their life?...my Uncle was 8 when my grandmother died...grandpa went str8 to the booze, my mom went to str8 into the caretaker role (well, someone had to do it, "she said") their lives went choatic because nothing was taught that is was ok to grieve...dunno...my Uncle has temper tantrums, evil looks, dresses back at that era of his life....and to me, being the niece, 9 years difference in age...he is weird...(lol)
stuffing the feelings really makes us sick...i get that now...
just rambling...