I also wanted to add a couple of things to this post:
When he is drinking with his friends at the bar, he has a tendency to pick fights. Just this past August he added another disorderly conduct to his record. He has never been physically violent towards me, however mentally he has brought me down. When he has been drinking, he will yell and call me hurtful things when I refuse to sleep with him. When I say I am leaving him, he will tell me that I will never find anyone as good as him and he could have any girl he wanted. When I have plans with my family he will bluntly ignore me for days as punishment for "ditching" him when I had these plans way ahead of time and he and I never had plans.
Somehow, some way, everything turns into my fault when we argue. And then there are the threats of him commiting suicide if I leave him.