I realized just yesterday in therapy that I would not have choosen my ex for a business partner, tennis partner.....you get the picture. I have struggled for years though feeling somehow that I let my life partner down.
It helped me to clarify a lot....about my thoughts when we got together and the confusion of the alcoholism. Also about seperating out what is mine and what is not. I am not ready for another relationship but I hope it might help with that too. Even before I realized alcohol was in my marriage I had other concerns that make it challenging for a relationship. They became astronomical when alcohol came into the picture.
I don't tell you that to say you need to make the same choice....just that thinking about it from a slightly different perspective helped something to crystalize.