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Old 11-13-2012, 07:29 AM
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Sweetee, have you read Women Who Love Too Much (I forgot the author, just look it up on Amazon)? It may be a good resource to add to your list of newly developed coping skills.

If you expect your AH to act as he always does, it doesn't catch you off guard and surprise you when he does something "awful". Sounds as if maybe you haven't accepted the reality of that, so when he does something awful you get hurt by it. Better to be pleasantly surprised when he does something nice or kind then hurt and shocked when he acts badly toward you, right?

It's time to let go, hon. Time to let it be what it really is, and that the chances are slim to none anything is going to radically change for the better anytime soon, if ever. Better to face this now then continue to drag it out any longer. Obviously it is keeping you stuck and miserable.
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