I'm so sorry....
He is an addict, drinking is what they do, don't care one bit about promises, mine broke plenty. The way he is treating you sucks, he probably figures you won't do anything about it, like actually go through with divorcing him. It isn't you, he has a drinking problem and he's getting mean and nasty defending his "lifestyle" and his B.S.
I think you should contact a lawyer to figure out what options you have.
