Thanks to all who responded. I am still finding my way. But I know that he will be plenty busy for the next 45 days.
He will attend AA meetings every day.
He will help me make soup for the soup kitchen I volunteer at.
He will also be getting a volunteer gig--not sure what it will be but he will get one.
LMN, I will be looking into juvie. I have the policewoman's number who called me with his charge. She is a mother whose kids also got into trouble with drugs. I am going to ask her for advice. Maybe she will have a cup of coffee with me or something. If not, the situation will resolve itself, as long as I do the next right thing. I am ready to let him face his consequences, whatever they are. I am praying that any decisions I have to make (him being a minor and all) come from loving detachment rather than judgment and anger.
I am staying in this day, focusing on doing good things for myself, and working my two programs. (I prayed today that during these 45 days, I learn to take care of myself while still being present to my son.