caligirl, I'm in your boat, but at least you've got the guts to actually leave. I'm still too scared. Mine is not only and alcoholic but a drug addict too. Oxy. Quit cold turkey when I busted him about 6 months ago but today I suspect he met a drug dealer and bought some. I'm just so exhausted. Unfortunately mine hasn't gotten a DUI yet (I have no idea how he is so lucky) but sometimes i wish he would thinking it would be the rock bottom for him. But it probably wouldn't. I think rock bottom might be me and my daughter leaving, but I'm too scared to do it.