Originally Posted by
freshstart57 
Don't struggle, don't get angry, don't get anything....You can have those thoughts and emotions without becoming those thoughts. You can feel these things and still remain detached, without feeling as though you are invested in these thoughts and need to do something about them. They are just thoughts.
I refuse to get into the "what ifs?", what if it wasn't bad for me? What if I overreacted and I don't really have a problem, what if I did it one more time for old times sake?
There is no what if anymore, I made a big plan to quit drinking and using drugs forever, and so I have no business thinking about it in the first place. Doesn't matter if any of the what ifs came true, I still made the plan to quit forever and so it doesn't matter what else happens, that one thing will always remain true. This approach doesn't really leave any room for that sort of flawed logic and mind chatter. Sure it can still happen but I don't have to engage it. What freshstart said is spot on.