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Old 11-03-2012, 04:19 PM
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onlythetruth
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As someone who has been through the inevitable adjustment that happens after quitting an addiction, and known many others who've done so, I can only say this. Even the most successful long term recovery starts out very messy. It is almost like adolescence for many of us, both emotionally and sexually. Some of us haven't had sex sober for years and the notion of being intimate without the buffer of intoxication can be terribly intimidating....yet as adults we are embarrassed to feel that way.

No one could be blamed for not wanting to hang in there with a newly abstinent partner during this period of adjustment. There's no doubt about it--it's incredibly tough--and again, this is true even if your partner does successfully quit his or her addiction.

I have no advice to give you good folks nor do I intend to make excuses for the behavior of people who have recently quit addictions. I guess all I'm saying is...it goes with the territory.
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