((meadowsis)) - You don't have to answer the phone. You have the right to do what you want in your life. It took me a while to figure that out, I was so focused on the A.
BTW, jail is not fun, it's not supposed to be. One of the officers told us, once, "we don't WANT you to like it here, we don't WANT you to come back..what we WANT is for you to get your shytt together and never, ever come back".
One more thing. If you ever bail out the addict, make sure that it's money you're fine with throwing away because there are good chances they will not show up to court, may get another charge, and that bail money is lost. My dad did bail me out, once, and I did get to court. However, the other times I got locked up, he said "nope" and my bond was less than $200.
I will forever be grateful to my loved ones for allowing me the dignity of living my life and dealing with the consequences. It's what led me to recovery.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy