Al-Anon is sadly mostly absent in my area. Huge AA and NA communities and not much in the way of Al-Anon. I'm using SR, lots and lots of recommended readings, and individual counseling. I haven't been able to see my counselor this last month while I figure out how to juggle childcare so I can attend, which might be one reason I'm so back and forth. I have an appointment with her next week.
I'm just shocked at how my brain can grasp and know something, while my heart? inner child? ego? still feels alone and abandoned, and how strong those urges are to alleviate the pain of hurt and abandonment despite knowing quite intimately what the consequences of those actions would be.