All I can tell you is my experience.
And it's pretty much this:
e! It would seem to me that to have sex with someone that guilts and pushes you into having sex with them, especially when you are repulsed by them and don't trust them, would feel to me like sexual abuse.
The day I left my AXH fearing for my life, the thought that went through my mind repeatedly was "I will never, ever, allow myself to be forced to have sex against my will again."