Hi, Wrldhealer. Welcome to SR.
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I actually don't know where technically there is a borderline that separates an alcoholic from non-alcoholic. I can tell you from my personal experience that I started to seek help when I realized that I NEED wine to cope with some problems. It did not interfere with my work, my relatives, friends either. But I started to feel dependant on this. I coouldn't just have one glass and say "stop". And from what you are saying it sounds to me like some sort of dependancy (it is strictly my opinion).
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