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Old 10-25-2012, 09:45 AM
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MsPINKAcres
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"you could be right"
"I hate you feel that way"
"oh ok"
are a few of the defusing statements I learned to use when facing those "no answer" arguements ~
To me, I began to be able to tell when my exah was just looking for a fight ~ sometimes it helped, sometimes it didn't ~
learning NOT to pick up the rope in the tug of war for the battle of control is the biggest battle ~
I also learned that I didn't have to convince anyone of anything that I knew to be true - if I knew it to be true - why did I have to waste energy & effort convincing someone else ~

You know how much "housework" you do - why does she have to see it to validate it ~
You're awesome & you know it!

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