Originally Posted by outtolunch

If I recall, you have 2 young children and are living with your parents. Active alcoholics/addicts and those new to recovery make lousy partners and especially lousy parents. Bravo to you for putting the best interests of your children before your interests in him.

It's curious that this therapist suggested you give him an ultimatum because attempts to control/change other people do not work and lead to mutual resentments.

He's living his life as he chooses to do. Nothing you can say or do is going to get him sober or prevent a relapse. You are not that powerful. None of us are.