Originally Posted by tuffgirl

when the time does come, there is one thing i misunderstood in my marriage ..., which i understand now, is the concept of being emotionally available to have a relationship.

I have a lot of good things to say about my ex ... I married [that person], after all. But alcoholism [and addiction] kept [the A] from being emotionally available. Next time, i want that. In my view, that allows for a more open minded approach to the day-to-day issues that arise in all relationships.