This brings back memories. Shortly after my divorce, I had someone ask me, “If and when the time comes what do you want in a relationship?” I felt like a deer in headlights, I had no interest in a relationship and never even thought about it. I don’t have much interest in a relationship today but in thinking about the question, I have had to look at it to help myself in making healthy choices about the people I do want in my life today. I found myself stuck a couple of times and so I had to work it backwards. By asking myself what I knew I didn’t want I could narrow down what I did want and prioritize what were the deal breakers for me.