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As harsh as it may seem, I second this idea, Caligirl. Your AH is doing exactly what my exRABF did right before his downward spiral. Make a few provisions for yourself -- social, familial, and especially financial.

Please know that I am absolutely not making any judgements or assumptions about your AH's commitment to sobriety. But from my own experience, I wish I'd realized earlier that I was already on my own the whole time. It's a lonesome business, loving an alcoholic... I spent so much time paralyzed by fear and confusion, and worrying about my ex's self-destructive behaviour, etc.

On the other hand, meanwhile, I had been pulling all the weight, by myself, all along. That's actually quite an empowering thought! I'm just hoping you have that thought sooner than I did.

I wish you all the best, and I hope that whatever money you may squirrel away will be used for a luxury tropical holiday to celebrate your AH's sobriety this time next year! But plan for the worst anyway, please...