Welcome to SR
Rather than it being a burden to your wife you not drinking have you thought it may come as huge relief?
I'm sure she'd rather have a sober husband,a good husband,a decent father than a guy who gets pissed,stays out all night doing god knows what,makes fool of himself and may well lose his job due to booze.
Seriously, I'm being harsh-but see it from her point of view. Do you reallythink your wife is happy with the way you've described things? She will probably cry with relief that you quit. You 'll find most people don't give much thought to us not drinking.It's only because we have a problem that we think NOT drinking is so abnormal.Most people don't notice what or if you drink-unless you are making a fool of yourself,in which case people will be glad you've quit.If people ask you don't have to give details,simply say you're not drinking tonight or taking some time off for health reasons
Welcome again,there is some great support here