Originally Posted by
cynical one 
Did he do these things the first 20 years of the marriage prior to the use of drugs or is this all new behaviors?
Yes, he was always a very thoughtful husband...but he never did the laundry. To be quite honest, I would perfer he not do the laundry though. lol But I always thought he had a little selfish streak in him about golf, but I just excused it as a "man thing." In hindsight, I think I had a little "needy wife thing" going on too.
Also, my husband was so loving and kind to my mother. For example: He knew she loved Christmas (all holidays) and would wait till she was at an appointmnet and would go and decorate her house. If she was in the hospital or rehab, he would go decorate her room while she was at physical therapy. They had to have lots of lights!! She adored him and he just loved her.