I generally silence my phone at night.
I am in therapy. Reading Codependent No More. Doing the activities. Writing and reading on here. All Cynical One's Blogs. Etc. and so on.
I'm learning how to establish better boundaries and take care of myself and put all that into practice, bit by bit. I'm 38 and I've spent a long time dealing with things in unproductive ways without even realizing it, necessarily...so it will take me more than a few months to completely undo.
The point of my post was just venting, which I think is a normal, healthy thing to do...and actually helps me from having overly emotional reactions toward the people who I'm establishing my boundaries for or with or whatever. I posted on here immediately after that interaction with my brother--which was via email--after NOT freaking out at him. I know I posted an angry "smiley", but I didn't consider it a crisis.